tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post3900231630788545464..comments2024-01-30T11:58:34.293-05:00Comments on Every Square Inch: Charitable DisagreementsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-38883378947830826592008-04-24T19:35:00.000-05:002008-04-24T19:35:00.000-05:00TonyYou're right - time is limited, people are mov...Tony<BR/><BR/>You're right - time is limited, people are moving fast, disagreements happen at warp speed, it seems.<BR/><BR/>Yet, I think to do this is not so much a matter of time it is the consistent practice of the heart - to not judge prematurely, to be more direct but humble, to try to be inclusive...Every Square Inchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636924397725214300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-79341180144975813962008-04-22T14:43:00.000-05:002008-04-22T14:43:00.000-05:00As I read your list, one thing jumped out at me, T...As I read your list, one thing jumped out at me, TIME. The workplace can move very fast, so finding the time to do this is the biggest challenge. TonyTony Rossellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05288238496792646049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-86400889286926278642008-04-19T22:29:00.000-05:002008-04-19T22:29:00.000-05:00SusanKeep trusting God as you have - God will rewa...Susan<BR/><BR/>Keep trusting God as you have - God will reward your faith toward Him. It'll work out for your good.<BR/><BR/>Ted<BR/><BR/>Always good to hear from you. I'll stop by to read your post on LL's visit.Every Square Inchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636924397725214300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-11150247080572468742008-04-19T17:55:00.000-05:002008-04-19T17:55:00.000-05:00Yes, I'm afraid I've seen humor done in that way. ...Yes, I'm afraid I've seen humor done in that way. Not helpful. Can be a nervous or learned coverup for resentment, though I think resentment is often not hard to see or think one might be seeing when such happens.Ted M. Gossardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10580691315315271791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-4417832262276296992008-04-19T17:53:00.000-05:002008-04-19T17:53:00.000-05:00ESI,I've got to come to your blog more often. This...ESI,<BR/>I've got to come to your blog more often. This is a great post. So very true. If we worked at this, it would help so much. And should become a part of who we're becoming in Jesus. Yet in this life, we have to keep growing in grace and working and praying towards it.<BR/><BR/>I posted today on L.L.'s visit, and know you'd be interested.Ted M. Gossardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10580691315315271791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-24169856162465090242008-04-19T09:51:00.000-05:002008-04-19T09:51:00.000-05:00Yes, that is exactly what I meant! If we think in...Yes, that is exactly what I meant! If we think in terms of giving what we have already received, it makes us look at situations of conflict far differently than we might otherwise.<BR/><BR/>As to the dean - more of the same - go back to the lab, get more preliminary data and more publications so you can get more grants and bring in more money to the university. It was supposed to be a curriculum meeting - and I'd promised others I would go and present a particular curricular need to him - so I did. The other was his choice to discuss. <BR/><BR/>But - as you write in your most recent quote - this is all upheld by God's hand and therefore good, no matter how it feels. God is gracious - I have this year to try to figure out what I want to be when I grow up (kind of funny to write at 54.5 yo) and to pursue it - and that is a luxury most people do not have!Halfmom, AKA, Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03545176965972986964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-12299684495295600012008-04-16T22:09:00.000-05:002008-04-16T22:09:00.000-05:00LLThe reason I made the point about humor is that ...LL<BR/><BR/>The reason I made the point about humor is that I've found that sometimes people really have an issue that bothers them but they lack the courage to speak honestly. <BR/><BR/>Humor becomes a foil and not a very good one because it can communicate resentment without getting to the heart of the matter. <BR/><BR/>Susan<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the encouragement. I'm sorry to hear about your "terminal contract". May God help you in your discussions with the dean.<BR/><BR/>To your point about grace...it makes me consider that the grace of God informs us that we have received kindness from Him when we deserve wrath...may we extend that to others we encounter.Every Square Inchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636924397725214300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-74276734576994647762008-04-16T22:04:00.000-05:002008-04-16T22:04:00.000-05:00Vince,Thanks - you're right. We can take the next...Vince,<BR/><BR/>Thanks - you're right. We can take the next step to inquire and ask for input. <BR/><BR/>I think your point about unity is a good one. It could stand as a separate point altogether. As far as possible, we should disagree while preserving unity. It's biblicalEvery Square Inchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636924397725214300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-54873302141591489122008-04-16T22:03:00.000-05:002008-04-16T22:03:00.000-05:00Vince,Thanks - you're right. We can take the next...Vince,<BR/><BR/>Thanks - you're right. We can take the next step to inquire and ask for input. <BR/><BR/>I think your point about unity is a good one. It could stand as a separate point altogether. As far as possible, we should disagree while preserving unity. It's biblicalEvery Square Inchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636924397725214300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-79312571886868152482008-04-16T22:01:00.000-05:002008-04-16T22:01:00.000-05:00RLPThanks for your thoughts here. Yes, we've all ...RLP<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your thoughts here. Yes, we've all encountered people who express themselves in ways that can be tempting to those around them.<BR/><BR/>I've been known to say things without considering how it might impact others. You asked what to do with people like that - I would start by inquiring. For instance, in your example, you might say "You have strong opinions! Why do you think that?"....or sometimes it's wiser just to say nothing.Every Square Inchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636924397725214300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-72456955205882340382008-04-15T22:40:00.000-05:002008-04-15T22:40:00.000-05:00just letting you know that your posts over the pas...just letting you know that your posts over the past months have helped to prepare my heart for what I must face in the next year. I was notified yesterday by my chairwoman that I was being given a "terminal" contract this year rather than a regular one due to my lack of grant funding - but, if I received grant funding during the year, she and the dean would be happy to recend the terminal language of the contract. That's a death knell.<BR/><BR/>So thanks - you've given me a lot to think through and even in this post, a way to prepare for my meeting with the dean (scheduled before my chair called me in unexpectedly) tomorrow.<BR/><BR/>By the way, as far as disagreements - I think that grace provides a salve to all situations of disagreement. Much can be accomplished by giving the benefit of the doubt and restating, with grace, what you though you heard someone say.Halfmom, AKA, Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03545176965972986964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-50577990209544601502008-04-15T13:13:00.000-05:002008-04-15T13:13:00.000-05:00I thought the point about humor was interesting. S...I thought the point about humor was interesting. Sometimes humor can be a form of warming up to a subject, but I guess sometimes we never get to the point, as you say!L.L. Barkathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13333960142447144678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-17157720268936122522008-04-15T07:04:00.000-05:002008-04-15T07:04:00.000-05:00Excellent post! One thought, when disagreeing hum...Excellent post! One thought, when disagreeing humbly (your point #2), take the next step and ask for input from the person you're disagreeing with about what you've said, and make it easy for them to ask you questions. This communicates both humility and unity.Vince Hindershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00113367748523432956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27951012.post-10199408062503818542008-04-14T18:41:00.000-05:002008-04-14T18:41:00.000-05:00Very nice thoughts. I'm quite sensitive to body la...Very nice thoughts. I'm quite sensitive to body language and subtle kinds of communication. I've watched people disagree many times. There seems to be a group of people who word their disagreements in such ways as to maximize the conflict possibilities. Someone says, "I like the movie." They say, "Really, I hated it. I thought it was ridiculously infantile."<BR/><BR/>Nice.<BR/><BR/>I don't know what to do with people like that. I don't know if they are just clueless or if they really are trying to hurt the person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com